You won’t grow if you aren’t honest with yourself.
If you continually lie to yourself, hide from what’s really going on in your heart, you’ll hit a wall. Even if you’re “succeeding” in whatever endeavor you are currently trying, if you don’t really look at yourself, you’ll lose.
Being honest with yourself doesn’t ensure “success,” by any means, but it does ensure growth. Internally, an honest heart and transparent perspective of yourself can mold you more than many other books or classes or projects. Being honest with yourself, not critical or degrading or mean, but honest, will help you come to God more faithfully, interact with people more freely, and love yourself more deeply.
Growth won’t occur if you’re faking it.
It’s scary, to be honest with yourself. It means that you’re diving deep into who you really are, what’s really going on, and not trying to cover it up or make yourself feel better. The pain of going deep into yourself and uncovering the truth of where you are will hurt. But it will hurt less than realizing years down the road that you’ve lied to yourself and to others, and thus come to a point where you are more empty, more unsure of who you are, and more broken than you thought.
There is a beautiful truth about the God we serve: He knows our thoughts before we think them, and He still wants us to speak them. He doesn’t need us to say anything. But when we are honest and uncover ourselves before Him, He graciously and mercifully begins healing and growth in our lives.
If you’re afraid of being honest with yourself, realize this truth. Even if you don’t acknowledge it, God already knows. Jesus knows who we are, where we’ve been, what we’ve done, and all the thoughts that have travelled through our heads, and He still invites us to know Him, to experience growth, healing, and new and more abundant life.
Therefore, be honest with yourself. Not critical, degrading, or mean. Tell yourself the truth. Be honest with God, and come to Him with open hands. He won’t turn away a heart that is open.